Great And Easy 5 way's To Compliment A Girl

Compliment Her with a Gift
Compliments do not have to be given with gifts. That is to say, a well-phrased compliment is a gift all by itself. BUT – if you are going to give a gift, try giving a compliment with it. Try telling her you bought that special bracelet not just “because it was on sale” (OOPS!) but “because you saw it, and it reminded you of her and how important she is to you”. (Sigh, much better!). Even a sincere “I thought of you today, and it made me smile” is a beautiful accompaniment to a gift. One sidenote – most women do not like gifts that are associated with sex. It makes us feel cheap, so if you have a particularly lusty occasion and want to commemorate it with a gift, tie the gift to the fun you had together, not the sex itself. See the difference?

Compliment Her with your Ears
Listening is a compliment in and of itself. When you listen to me, it says “You are important to me, and I care what you have to say”. That is so touching to us – and I speak for myself and many friends, who wish we could get half of the attention that a good football game gets. Turn off the TV and talk to her. If she is sharing with you, listen. If it is the same old rant, about the same old thing, maybe she really needs to be heard on this? Asking probing, honest questions will tell her that you care, you are truly listening, and you care about her feelings. Don’t be afraid to use reflective comments, “That must be really hard for you.” “It sounds like that was really frustrating”. “That must have made you feel great!”

If you are tired, and really don’t want to have that long discussion she is ready to launch into, be honest with her. My husband once dozed off during a particularly heartfelt discussion we were having… or clearly, that I was having (alone!). Fear not, he heard an earful about that the next morning. Now he will wisely (and in a self-protecting mode) tell me “Honey, I truly want to hear what you have to say, but I am so tired I’m afraid I can’t really focus on it. I do want to listen to you, and I’d love it if we could talk about this in the morning…” Yes, she may be hurt. But she will be less hurt than if you doze off (and as my husband will attest to, you will be less hurt – physically – also!). Be sure to initiate the discussion in the morning, otherwise you are just putting her off.

Compliment Her with your Time
When is the last time you took time off of work just to share it with her? Or took an hour out of your weekend just to sit and talk to her? We sometimes get a bucket of KFC, and a bottle of wine, and go sit on a blanket at the beach just to talk. Its not expensive, I set aside my healthy diet, and we just relax and spend time together. Have kids? Get a sitter, and go out. Again, its not the place that matters as much as the fact that you initiate it, and you get the sitter because YOU want to spend time with HER. Make sure she knows that. Make sure she understands how important she is to you, and how meaningful that time together is to you. That is a huge compliment in and of itself.

Compliment Her with your Heart
Compliment her with heartfelt words, at times OTHER than when you are initiating sex. I’m not saying that a few well-spoken words don’t make a woman feel more romantic. On the contrary, I’m talking about the crockpot theory. A brilliant marriage counselor once phrased it like this: When a man wants sex, he’s like a microwave. Plant the idea, and DING! He’s ready! But a woman is like a crockpot …. If you want to have her cooking at night, start the crockpot in the morning with a few well-chosen compliments and love words. If you do this every day, she’ll know that it comes from your heart, and not from a … errr…. lower region. Compliments should always come from the heart, see above under sincerity. And that isn’t to say they have no place in lovemaking – on the contrary, mutual respect and compliments are critical to a healthy self-esteem and libido. Just make sure that you are not limiting your compliments to times when you want sex, otherwise they may be discounted.

Compliment Her with a Hug
One of the most meaningful ways to deliver a compliment is when you are holding your partner in your arms, looking in their eyes, and sharing your thoughts with them. This lets them know you are sincere, and tells them that this is from your heart.